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LIFE AFTER STROKE
My inspirational story of life after stroke to help you manage yours
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I had a stroke almost 6 years ago. It changed my life. I searched for answers to questions and could not find what I was looking for. Now years later I know the answers. I know what you are looking for. You should not have to wait years to learn your answers like I did.
Doing this show, and getting the countless calls and emails afterwards convinced me to write this report, as well as others. I know it is needed. This is the information I was looking for when I had my stroke.
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LIFE AFTER STROKE.
My inspirational story of life after stroke to help you manage yours
I want to help you understand what happened, what you need and how to care for you. The changes that will occur with you and your life, you relationships, your finances, your work, your future, and what to expect next.
Let me warn you, if you don't prepare this could be a very painful and expensive time. It was for me.
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This stroke is all new for you. I understand. This is what I learned going through it myself.
I am not a doctor or a counselor, I am a stroke survivor just like you.
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LIFE
AFTER STROKE
My
inspirational life after stroke to help you manage yours
By
Jeff Kagan
February
2010
Five
years ago in 2004 I had a stroke. I am still recovering. There is so much I have
learned which I want to share with you. Information you will eventually learn on
your own, but which would be helpful to you today. This is one part of a series
of reports and books to share what I have learned with you.
About
Jeff Kagan
Over
the past twenty-five years I have been a telecom industry analyst, speaker,
author, and publish the Jeff Kagan Report & Comment.
At
the top of my career, in July 2004 I had a stroke, which changed my life.
Since
then I have gone through several different stages in the long recovery process,
and I am not done yet. Each of them is its own story full of laughter and tears,
frustration and triumph, joy and misery. I have been asked several times to
share my story to help you.
Fortunately
now, 5 ½ years later, I have recovered quite a bit. Also fortunately, I am
still recovering. Early on I thought it would take weeks or months, but is has
been years.
I
am not a doctor or counselor. I am a stroke survivor just like you. Through
trial and error I have learned so much about stroke and recovery. Much I learned
from my doctors and counselors over the last five years. I also learned much on
my own. It’s unbelievable and even unfair, but there is so much information
you are left on your own discover.
It
would have been much better if my family and I had been taught these things
before hand. It would have given direction to know what was coming next, and
warning signs to pay attention to and avoid.
If
this were taught it would have saved me time, aggravation and a lot of money.
This
is what I want to share with you. To give you a good understanding of what is
coming next from my perspective. I want to help you recover more quickly. I want
to try and answer some of the questions that you don’t even know you have yet,
friend-to-friend, person-to-person.
Welcome
to the Jeff Kagan Stroke Report.
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LIFE
AFTER STROKE
My
inspirational life after stroke to help you manage yours
You
have a choice. You can be bitter or you can get better. I heard this from
Bob Woodruff of ABC news after struggling to recover when he was injured in Iraq
by a bomb.
You've had a stroke. So how long does recovery take?
Weeks? Months? Years? Yes.
You've had a stroke. First let me tell you I am very sorry. I completely understand what you are going through. I had a stroke almost 6 years ago. Expect to go through several different stages. They are normal.
Hopefully by the end of this report you will be feeling much better, much more in control, and have a better understanding of all the questions you are currently wrestling with, and more.
How do I know? Because when I had my stroke this was the information I was looking for and could not find. I had to learn the long and hard way. I made plenty of mistakes, large and small. I want to help you avoid these mistakes and focus on your recovery. Your focus should be on getting better.
At first you are confused because your brain has been injured. Depending on the part of your brain that is affected, things may or may not seem normal for a while.
Next, you are sure you will get better quickly. After all you don't know much about stroke and you don't learn everything you need to know from the doctors.
Next, you start to realize how this has changed your life and worse, it is not short term. You may have these problems for a long while.
Next, as a result, you then become depressed and beaten down. All this can last several years until.
Depression and recovery
Until you set your mind right. Until you realize you can't do anything about it. Until you realize you are the only one who can make the best of a bad situation. You start to think the right way. The positive way. Positive expectations is a different mind set. It will lead you to heal.
You start to see you cup as half full rather than half empty like you have been seeing things. Suddenly you start to see brighter skies ahead. You realize your life will be different, but at least you are alive and can still love and live and you fully intend to do just that.
How long does it take to get to this point? The answer is different for everyone. It depends on how severe your stroke is. It depends how much it affects your life. I don't remember when, but it took me a good year or two. Then I spent the next several years working hard to recover.
Strokes are different. No two strokes are the same. It depends on the part of your brain that dies and how much of it. That's what can tell you what you will not be able to do.
Recovery has two parts. One is rehab. Learning how to do things again. The other is time. Simply time. Giving yourself the time it takes to heal. The time it takes for your brain to re-wire itself. And it does do that.
Since I had my stroke I hear that word more often. I am suddenly tuned-in. You will be too. Listen. Learn. There is not as much as you would like, but there is more than when I had mine just a few years ago.
Waves of recovery
As time goes by you will be able to do things you cannot do today. That feels great, but it also takes time. It takes a few years, but it does happen. Not in one big event. Rather in many smaller events. I call them waves. Waves of healing.
This is the best way I can describe it. You may have one wave, two waves, three waves per year. Its not gradual healing. It wasn't for me. It was nothing, then suddenly a rush as you realize you can do something again. It is thrilling.
Your
life changes completely. You don’t understand it all. Nor does your family and
friends. The people who are taking care of you are just as confused as you are.
When
you break your leg you deal with it because you still have your brain. However
when you have a stroke it is different. Your brain has been injured. That means
you cannot think and act like normal. Your ‘normal’ is now different. New.
Doctors, nurses and counselors are there to take care of your medical needs, but what about the rest of your life? What about guidance and knowledge to save your sanity and your relationships and finances.
Everything
is suddenly changed; not only your health, but your job, your relationships,
your money, everything.
Changed relationships
It’s
not just your life that is changed forever. It is also their lives. Your family
and your friends are there to take care of you.
Yes
taking care of you. Your relationship has changed. Just like in the movies, but
this is the real world. You were equals. You are no longer equals. They are now
your caretakers.
How
long is the question. A few years or much longer? Either way it will be for a
long while so get used to it. That changes your relationship. No one really
understands how everything about your relationship will change, but it does.
Neither you nor your caretakers understand yet.
Early
on you don’t mind. You don’t actually know it. Your mind has been damaged by
the stroke and you enter on a long journey of recovery. This journey has several
different steps and none of them are familiar. This is a very strange new world.
On top of that your brain may not be able to act or react like normal. You may
feel drunk or high for a long time.
You’ve
talked with doctors and counselors. Nobody ever talks about how long it will
take to get you back to normal. That is assuming you can get back to some state
of normal.
I
know what you are thinking. I thought the same thing a few years ago when I
first had my stroke. That’s crazy. Of course I would get back to normal. But
stroke recovery is different for everyone. Some recover in months while others
take many years and others never recover.
The
aggravating part is you don’t know in advance. You have to hope for the best,
and pray for speed, and work your tail off for recovery. Then there are no
guarantees. You still have to hope and pray.
Recovery will happen over time
However recovery is possible. You will recover. The question is how much?
Early
on your mind will not let you believe it. I remember. I thought it would be like
getting over a cold or flu, or maybe like a broken leg.
I
would get better eventually right? Perhaps it would take a little longer, but I
would get back to normal soon. But what is this new normal anyway? And how soon
is soon.
It
has been 5 ½ years for me so far and I have learned so much over that time. One
thing I have learned is stroke can take quite a bit of time to recover from.
Even at that point, when you have some recovery, you still probably won’t be
back to normal yet. I am still recovering after almost 6 years.
Stroke
recovery happens at its own pace. But at least it happens. That is not
necessarily bad, just different. Very different.
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Stroke
impact. Your conversations and your thoughts may be much shorter
Stroke can impact many different areas among different people. It all depends on the part of your brain that your stroke affected. Some people have trouble on one side or the other. Some people can no longer hold things in their hands, stand up, walk, talk, see or a variety of other issues.
You may have trouble thinking normally. You may have trouble remembering things. This was my problem. If this affects you then you know this already. No matter what the problem, your life has changed. At least for several years.
The results can feel maddening during the first few years. Especially as you struggle to recapture what you once had. Fortunately the struggle is from an injured mind so it is not that bad. Especially in the beginning.
As
the months pass and as your brain starts to recover it often becomes a source of
depression. You think that you have lost something and that makes you very sad.
Fortunately
I can tell you it gets better. A few years from now you will be much better than
today for multiple reasons. Mainly because your brain will have begun to
recover. Because of that you can suddenly remember things again. Perhaps not as
easily or as well as before, but the good news is you are on the right track and
getting better, not getting worse.
I can speak of this because it happened to me. My stroke affected the part of my brain that processes and labels the new information I learn. I could remember everything prior to the stroke the same as always. However new information that I learned seemed to go in one ear and out the other. In reality it did get in, however it was not labeled before it was stored so I could not remember it. It was lost in space up there between my ears.
Still recovering
The
good news is, over the last several years as my brain has recovered my memory
has improved. More good news is my brain is still recovering, so I expect to be
better one year from today.
That
is what you have to look forward to. The amount of recovery is different for
everyone. It depends on quite a few different factors like the health of your
brain, your age, the part of your brain that was affected and the amount of
damage.
Recovery
is different from person to person. However I believe that if you expect and
demand the best of yourself, and if you work like crazy, you stand a much better
chance of these good things occurring.
Set the gears up in your mind to have high expectations of yourself.
Here's a big question. If you knew you would get better would you just sit back and enjoy being disconnected? But what if it takes you being mentally connected and working like a dog in order to actually recover? Then you wouldn't just sit back would you? You'd work like crazy to recover.
Like I said, a paradox. When you think of it that way, even though you could enjoy the early days of stroke, there is no way you would ever sit back and hope for recovery. You'd jump in and fight your way back wouldn't you?
That's your choice.
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A
secret I learned that played a large role in my success over the last 15 – 20
years. It works with stroke recovery too
Positive
expectancy
Over
the last many years I have become successful. It wasn’t easy or quick. Not
until I discovered one of the secrets I think. Positive expectancy.
It
seems that over time I had learned how to wave a magic wand and create success
beyond my wildest dreams over the last 15 – 20 years. Over the years I tried
to explain how, to everyone who was interested. As it turns out it is not hard,
but you have to be thinking the right way.
This same secret that led me to success has helped me immensely with my recovery to date.
Let
me explain.
Whatever
you expect, you will get. Your brain will make it happen for you. I have learned
that our brains do not know whether things are real or imagined. They don’t
think is it right or wrong, good or bad.
All
your brain does is make it come true. Whatever you have in your mind, your brain
makes it come true. If you think positively, all your brain does it make it come
true. If you think negatively all your brain does is make it come true.
Your
life is what you think. What you believe. So it is so important to think the
right way. To have the right ideas in your head. Your brain, even your injured
brain, will ultimately make your dreams come true.
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Sleep.
It is important to realize a part of your brain died.
The rest of it is fine, but that that changed you, at least for a while
Over
the coming months and years as your brain works to heal, to repair itself as
best it can, you may find yourself wondering in a sort of la-la land. This is
actually not a bad place to be.
I
discuss this more in the report. It is a very interesting place to be. Actually
believe it or not the first few months is a really special and nice place to be.
You
are disconnected from the stress and pressure of the real world. Nothing bothers
you. There is no pain. No worries. Everything is wonderful. Beautiful. You have
loved ones around you to take care of all the messy details called life. All
while you are in a very nice, and very special warm and fuzzy place.
It’s like what you think getting high on drugs must be like. Except getting high only last’s a few minutes or hours. This part of stroke recovery lasts a lot longer. It goes on for months and years. At least several months. As your brain begins to heal, after several months, you begin to come back.
Then
as you begin to realize what happened that is the beginning of the tougher times
called healing.
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You
are very tired.
You
sleep quite a bit. That is good. You wake up and interact with the family and
watch some television then get tired and fall asleep after an hour or two. Then
you wake up again for another hour or two. Perhaps you try and play with your
computer and grab something to eat, then you get tired again and fall asleep
again.
This lasts for months, even years. Don’t fight this. This sleep is important. This is part of the healing process as your brain is struggling to repair itself.
Time.
It takes time.
Believe it or not its actually nice in here
This
is actually one of the most relaxing times you will ever remember. Its like
living inside a massage.
It
is your body recovering. Your brain suffered damage. You can get overwhelmed
easily. So have a quiet life for now. Your brain has to rebuild the connections
through new paths.
This
takes energy and it takes time. Give yourself that time.
Your family really needs to understand
Sorry to say I yelled at my brothers kids for just being kids
People around you need to understand what has happened to you. They have to understand you are not choosing to act this way. Then again you don't understand yourself so how can they?
You
have no choice. You are now different. Injured. You have a lot of self-repairing
to do, and it takes time.
You will not be you for a while. I remember during the first year of recovery when my brother and his family came to visit. It was the same loud, noisy, crazy bunch as always, and I still love them like any uncle would, except this time I was not able to handle it.
I didn't understand what was happening. No one told me about this to prepare me.
So let me help you to understand.
I needed peace and quiet. Understand this. It wasn't just something I would have preferred, it was necessary. My brain was injured. So I lost my temper and yelled a lot at the kids. They didn't understand why I was acting that way. The kids or my brother and sister in law. Neither did I actually.
I was suddenly and simply overwhelmed with the chaos. I could not handle it at the time.
Today is it 5 years later. I am better, but not back to normal. I still get a little nuts when I deal with that sudden wave of noise. I still love it when they visit or when we go to my parents place in Florida to visit, but often I have to get in the car and go out alone for a while.
My brother doesn't understand, but it is for my sanity.
You may experience the same pressures. So understand they are there working within you all the time as your brain struggles to repair and rebuild. It takes time. Many months and years. You can't rush it. So understand it. Don't overwhelm yourself.
Visit and enjoy your family and friends, but do it in small doses, even if they don't understand.
Enjoy these early stages of recovery
What
I am about to say may not sound right, but enjoy this time. It doesn’t last.
After
several months the new pathways start to recover enough that you begin to
recapture what you had lost. Suddenly the blissful peace starts to get a bit
noisier and that is when the stress begins to creep back into your life.
All
of a sudden you start to realize that you are now injured. All of a sudden you
want to get well soon, but you still have a long way to go.
You don’t really understand everything that is going on. You don’t understand all the words and issues. You don't understand what happened to you. You don't understand what your recovery process will be like.
You
may find it difficult or impossible to read at this stage. Words just don’t
have meaning at this point for many.
I can do everything I could do before, just in smaller and shorter doses. That's recovery to me. What will it be to you?
Getting better is good. Getting aggravated is not good.
As
you get better it is a mixed blessing. Getting better is good, but getting
aggravated is not good. Try not getting aggravated when you cannot do the
simplest things yet and now you suddenly realize this
Every
month that passes your brain is better than the last month. It is repairing
itself. You know that. That makes you happy. At the same time every month that
goes by you get more and more frustrated with your inability to do what you used
to do. You worry about your future.
I
suppose the worry is good. It keeps you working toward repairing. Sooner or
later you will get better and better. However you cannot control it. In fact you
can’t do anything about it yet.
Fortunately
it starts soft and slow. It grows over the months.
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You
can do one thing, but not another
This
is so strange. Only part of your brain is injured. The rest of your brain should
work fine still. In the first several months it is busy repairing itself so you
won’t act normally. However after that you start to act more normally.
Don’t
get me wrong, you won’t be normal for quite a while. It took me years. However
it will be harder for others to tell. Even those who care for you. They are
always cheering you on. Your family may even begin to forget the things you
cannot do. This can be a blessing for their sense of well being, but can be a
little bit of a pain when you still need them. You don't want to disappoint
them, but you still need them as much as always.
This is when you will notice something very strange. You become a mixed person.
It’s
like breaking your arm, but still doing everything else normally. Same here, but
with your brain. Think about it this way, you may be able to drive, but you
can’t read a book. Part of you works like normal, while other parts don’t.
Don’t assume if you can do one thing that you are normal in that respect. You are not normal. Not anymore. That is something you have to understand.
All
of us who have had a stroke have changed. This is not bad, just different. You
must be aware of that.
Parts
of your brain are injured while other parts are fine. In fact most of your brain
is fine. Understanding this is complicated, but it is true. You will see.
Remember recovery takes time. A lot of time.
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Driving
again
A
while after my stroke I started to drive again. This was a happy time. Back
behind the wheel of my car. I wanted to take a long drive. I thought that I
would go to downtown Atlanta. I got behind the wheel of my car and started.
It
was a beautiful and sunny day. I was driving again. After a while I thought it
must have been a while now since I was getting tired. So I decided to just turn
around and go home. So this trip would be a little shorter than I originally
thought. I ended up just going about a mile away and then turning around.
That's it. However it seemed like a long trip talking several hours. You know how you feel after driving for several hours?
When I got back home I listened to the radio for a few minutes before going in. I woke up an hour later. Yes I fell asleep again.
Remember you still need much sleep. Don't ever forget that.
But
that was far enough for day one. This was a real sign that I had to build up my
stamina. Not physical stamina, but mental stamina. That is something for you to
think about. Keep in mind that your stamina will not be normal for quite a
while. Figure a few years.
That
does not mean you shouldn’t go and challenge yourself. Just know it and rest
when you get tired.
However
it was a good, but short trip. It seemed like it took a while. That was all I
wanted.
My cousin is a neurologist in another state and as we talked I learned about something called Provigil. I got a prescription from my neurologist. It helped me stay awake. Like coffee.
I get tied and fall asleep when I am sitting and not moving. Like at business meetings. So this Provigil actually helped quite a bit. Fortunately I no longer need this. Today a cup of Starbucks works just fine.
Look forward to getting back to normal.
BEEP ! Wake up.
I
remember sitting at a red light one day and hearing a beep that woke me up.
Apparently I had fallen asleep at the light. Knowing that can happen I made sure
that I was always fully awake and alert before driving.
Over the next few weeks and months I took many trips. Each getting a bit longer. Eventually I found myself in downtown Atlanta again. However I drove differently. I did not drive straight to where I was going. Instead I explored. I drove all over on streets I never visited over the past 25 years in Atlanta. I visited all the changed and new areas of the city. This was an amazing, multi-year adventure for me.
I
also ended up in the North Georgia Mountains and all over as my hours behind the
wheel became normal.. I had books on tape and CD and I drove listening to books
and music.
Not
that I really understood where I was going. Most times I had no idea where I
was. I wasn’t going anywhere. I was just driving. It was freeing. It was sunny
and warm and the leaves were changing. It was a beautiful time.
Just
make sure you have a GPS unit in your car or you will get lost. I am serious
about this. You’re sense of where you are disappears.
When
my brother and his family came for a visit around Thanksgiving, 4 ½ months
after the stroke we all got in the cars and drive to the Fernbank Museum. I had
been there many times and should have known how to get there easily.
However
I could not think of the route so I used my GPS. It got us there. It did take
longer than usual I think because it went a different way, but it got us there.
To
tell you the truth I actually cried trying to get there. I could not remember.
It was one of the devastating moments and I had many of them over the first year
or two. This was a much longer trip than I remembered and the stress of finding
a particular place was new. Usually I just drove without anyplace in mind. But
we made it.
That’s
what life will be like. Trying new things and having mixed results. Happy and
sad all together.
So expect the same of yourself. Don't take no for an answer. Remember your brain doesn't know whether what you are thinking about is real or imagined, it just works hard to make your thoughts and dreams come true!
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Worry
is good?
Believe
it or not, this new worry is good. It is our human desire to regain control. The
worry whether we will be normal again starts juices flowing in the old noggin.
Unfortunately
it will be many months and years to see real recovery, but you will be able to
tell within weeks or months that you are heading in the right direction.
You will start to feel the first wave of recovery. You will not really understand this. I did not either. It was an actual good feeling though. All of a sudden you are heading in the right direction.
In
my story I was in the la-la-land from July when I had my stroke through around
Thanksgiving. My brother came for the holiday and we stood in the kitchen and
talked.
Previous
talks were short. They had to be. I could not hold a thought for more than a
couple seconds.
This
talk was different. It was the first time since I had the stroke that I could
hold a thought for about 10 minutes. When I realized it I jumped up and down.
Now
holding a thought for 10 minutes may not seem like a big deal, but when you
couldn’t do that and now suddenly you can again, that is HUGE.
Then
over the next year I had another wave or two or three of recovery.
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Recovery
in waves
I
talk about recovery in waves. Your recovery may be different, but everyone I
have talked with about this says this sounds typical. Recovery does not happen
gradually over time when you cannot realize it.
Instead
it comes in waves. All of a sudden you can do something you could not do
yesterday. You notice the improvement. That is terrific. You are not back to
normal, but it is a definite improvement.
Then
nothing for weeks or months, then suddenly again another wave.
In
the early years you will have more frequent waves. As the years pass you will
have fewer waves, but you will still notice each.
I
had my stroke 5 ½ years ago. Just a few months ago I had another wave. This
wave gave me the ability to write this and understand how to put it on the web
for you. I continue to improve. You will too.
Your
recovery may look different, but it is still recovery.
Look
for it. Work for it. Enjoy it. Congratulate yourself.
Stroke
recovery is a long journey. You can’t rush it. However I do think your
attitude can impact it. Can improve it.
So
always remember that glass is half full, not half empty. Keep the right frame of
reference.
You
have a choice. You can be bitter or you can get better. It’s your
choice. I heard this from Bob Woodruff of ABC news after struggling to recover
when he was injured in Iraq by a bomb. Bob is successfully struggling to get his
life back, bit by bit.
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How
your stroke impacts your spouse’s life
Over the first several years I never really thought about how my stroke affected Deborah my wife. She was always there. She was my rock while I was full of holes like a slice of Swiss cheese.
We
talk about my adventure with stroke occasionally. She told me the story about
when I had the stroke. About the first days in the hospital. About what the
doctors told her. About how it was all one big mystery. About how she felt it
important to not be alarmed or act afraid for me or of our future.
I
don’t know if I could have done the amazing job she had done. She had amazing
strength and long term fortitude. To tell you the truth, in the middle of it all
I never realized there was a long-term worry. I was always ok with it all. But I
had a brain injury so believe it or not, it was easier on me.
Deborah
was told I could have another stroke. She was waiting and watching as well as
caring for me when I was strutting around thinking I was alright. Deborah had to
deal with caring for my brain injury, while at the same time she had her brain
in tact and could see the risk for our future.
Fortunately
our income and money was not a problem in the beginning. This gave us the
ability to take our time during the healing and to learn. Then over the next
year or two I lost most of my business. I couldn’t do what I used to do.
I
love Deborah more than life itself, but apparently I was not able to think
clearly about how this was all affecting her. Then after years I started
thinking much more clearly and started to realize how I would have simply
freaked out if this had happened to her and I was supposed to be in charge.
Deborah
was instantly transformed from my wife, my spouse, my partner, to my caretaker,
my nurse, my teacher.
Our
relationship had changed. I don't think that I was primarily her husband.
Instead I was in her care. Well let me change that. Of course I was still her
husband. However we are all multiple things to each other. We are spouses,
friends, fellow parents, breadwinners, and so on.
First
I was always her best friend and husband. Now suddenly I was first her patient.
It changed our relationship.
While
writing this for you, I have begun thinking about what she went through. I also
realized we had to talk. I realized things were changing again, for the better.
Now
that I am getting better we had a talk and I explained to her that I am
beginning to understand what her life was like for her during the last five
years. Not a party to say the least.
I
understand that she went through hell. Not knowing whether I would recover until
I did. Recover from stroke. That means mentally, physically, emotionally and
financially. We don’t think about that, but that is very important for
survival.
As bad as all that was, it was worse because she was alone. She could not talk with me about it because I was not there. She has a sister and my family to talk with and she did. However she was the primary care giver to me and she saw things and understood things that no one else did.
Thank
God I found her 30 years ago. Deborah is the best thing in my life and I love
her more than she could ever know. Of course she still says the same thing to me
after all these years so I am indeed the luckiest man alive.
Think about your spouse.
You
are going through stroke, but so are they. They are going through stress and
pressure and look to you for support and understanding. They are only human.
They know they are the caretaker, but now and then, look them in the eyes and
tell them how much you love them and are so happy and thankful they are there
for you. And that you will always be there for them.
Just
tell them that you love them. And keep saying you love them.
This
stroke may have hit you, but you are not the only one impacted by it. Your whole
family is. Everyone who cares about you and who depends upon you. You are all
together fighting this even though you may not realize it yet.
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Here is a sample of a few other chapters in report
Helping
you manage your new life after stroke
A
stroke can feel just as debilitating.
Rejuvenation
describes the magical activity that occurs in the brain after injury or illness
like stroke.
Tears
and emotions were another problem.
Tastes
change
Weight
control messed up with stroke
Coffee
anyone?
Jerks
– you or them?
Choose
carefully whom you are around
Almost
1 million of us every year have a stroke
Places
are just as bad as people
Where
did I park the car this time?
Recovery
is uneven, some days better, some days worse
Pocket
voice recorder saved my sanity many times
Taped
an interview for trade show after 6 months
NOTES
on your cell phone will help
I
could not remember new information
Recovery
never stops
You
are a survivor!
Half
full or Half empty?
Income
and job may be cut or even gone. What is next?
This
is your do-over.
Will
this be over quickly so you will be back to normal soon?
How
your stroke impacts your life
Some
days are better than others.
The
brain re-maps functions
Back
to normal
A
close call at hospital you should learn from
Are
you depressed?
Publix
vs Kroger grocery shopping, for better or worse
Lay
back and enjoy, or work hard to recover?
Be
careful when shopping
Recovery
may be right around the corner
We
are just starting to learn more about stroke
Protect
yourself, you never know,
And more !
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LIFE AFTER STROKE
My inspirational story of life after stroke to help you manage yours
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